You're using slur using a name owned by many people who have NEVER hurt a black person in their life. You use it freely not considering AT ALL what it might be like to hear a name of a person we know and love as if it’s slur or an epithet of a horrible person and you acting like it’s nothing and throwing it around with complete insensivity. If you want people to empethetic towards you, it might help to DEMONSTRATE it. As long as you use a human being’s name as a slur, as far as I'm concerned, she's right. Try using the Golden Rule, it might help.