What if some people live in their thoughts the same way you live in your emotions? I feel soothed when I have an answer to a problem so I LIKE having someone at least try to help me come up with an answer, and that's the only reason I discuss my feelings. That makes me feel better than someone "validating" me telling me I should or shouldn't feel the way I feel. I feel more like you don't understand intellectuals so you try to explain them as fearful or avoidant rather than what I've said. Maybe they just see it differently.