Sometimes there are other things they're not saying. For those of us that think simply wearing flowers on our clothes or chiffon speaks fenininity, others are attached to false eyelashes, and plumped up lips and nails. Sometimes, opposite sex features are assumed of people who are overweight as well. For work I often assume a command voice that I was coached to do early on . It's now considered maculine and innapropriate, AND I sometimes would forget to turn it off at home. Add logical thoughts and speech? :D Presentation is a weird thing. You have to decide how much responsiblity you'd like to take for that. I'm an actress and fight with it myself.