Let's look at autism as a theory of non-pack behavior. And let's look at the disabiltiy notion around it as being a set of possible but not definite limitations. Then let's compare it with visual disability. Low vision or colorblindness or simply needing glasses or contacts to read or write are different from total or legal blindness. Calling all of it blindness doesn't help people to adjust to the visual abilities they do have. Aspbergers was removed from the DSM, but not everyone has adopted that version because it wasn't alway useful to help people. Most of what I need help with isn't very basic, and because of it, clinicians aren't very good at helping me get closer to the pieces of normal that would give me a better life than what I can get on my own and by not identifying. Most of the time when someone wants to "help" me, they treat me like a child, when my issues aren't childish in nature and having the label of disabled takes away a lot of the social status I have been able to earn.

The people we call normal do a lot of lying and manipulation that we don't. They also often fall under the spell of people whose actions show they're not in line with what they're saying, and to following pack behaviors that aren't advantageous to themselves or the group as a whole, but they follow training without question to do it anyway. This has a lot in common, ironically with antisocial disorders, but we don't call all of them sociopaths. The differences do matter.