I think you're throwing the stupid faces because you don't want to admit that people make their relationships together, not alone.

I'm saying that some people have a really specific idea of what they want in their relationships that have no consideration for the other person. And if they don't get their way EVERY time, they get meaner and meaner.

I watched one of the sweetest men in the world have to deal with that. He worked harder than any man I'd ever seen, and care more about pleasing her than anyone too, but he couldn't win. She just had an ugly attitude from beginning to end. When she decided that after 10 years together with regular sex, got married had kid #1 she didn't want sex anymore, less and less of a marriage happened. It was awful to watch. He worked harder and harder but nothing got better. He considered someone else, who appreciated him, but in his case went to counseling rather than get involved, but many men have stories like this and people often recreate their parents marriage no matter how bad. She recreated hers.