I hear the frustration. Some of my work friends have to deal with quite few of these issues and I'm tired jut watching. :(

I think the hating the hair concept is because that's why most white women use wigs, because they don't like what they have. Few are doing it purely for fashion or play.

So they don't really understand the protective concept.

As a Jew with the legendary Jew Fizz, I only have a slight clue. I have the 50 conditioners in my house and car that get added several times I day.