Human beings and neurotypicals especially, have a pack mentality, and that mentality focuses on a hierarchy that includes jobs within a group of friends, colleagues Etc. Part of being within that group is having a job that people recognize and appreciate, and the other is competition. If your child does not compete and usually really nice children do not compete, they eventually get stepped on by everyone else because no one wants to be at the bottom.

Neurodivergent friends tend to be more likely to reject a notion of a hierarchy, as are people from cultures that reject that notion or suppress part of that notion in favor of a more equitable overall group.

The best way to have a long-term relationship with a pack of people is to have a job in it that you like and that also others appreciate. It could be being the person who knows all the best restaurants, or the best concerts, or the best sports and new activities to do or watch. You could also be the best listener or even the leader if you know how.

An important thing to be aware of though is your status within the group and whether you can live within that status and feel good about yourself. If you can't deal with this part then this is the wrong group of friends. It's hard to find the right group and sometimes you find one it lasts a few years and then you grow away, or you break some internal rule you don't know about and you're going anyhow. These things are not anyone's fault, we just are who we are and the best way to ensure that there are as few breakups as possible is to ensure that the values are lining up well. Hope this helps.