Guy, we used to be on other side of this equation. Most men have not been with an older spouse, that's why you don’t realize how we know.

We were subject to these selfish, manipulative men who were taking advantage of us, and who were only focusing on those who weren’t a challenge. They took years of these women’s lives and emotional energy, leaving damage in their wake in their efforts to control a partner and a relationship, consistently putting their own needs first with no real balance. Most of all, we knew how common it was.