After many years of having weight problems myself that are moderate in nature but enough to curb opportunities, I can say that a lot of people really don’t understand that weight is an intensely personal thing.

I’m the last person to look pre-diabetic, but I am. The standard athlete 4–6 meals a day chicken-rice-veggies worked for me in my 20s and 30s but once I got older that changed. Now I eat keto 1–2 meals a day and do various forms of fasting to control weight.
Everyone, even noticing how much I’ve lost has insisted that I’m doing it the wrong way and I should eat like them.

So If there’s any one message I have for someone who needs more than what you’ve wrote, which is beautiful and instructive, and so very real, it’s everyone’s life is different, everyone’s journey is different and some of us are better off being fatter than skinnier becuase the hormones and food relationship will never line up perfectly and the struggle to make it “right” could do more harm than good. I’d rather have my friend around and fat than dead from taking pills or doing something drastic her body can’t take.