I think the Karen, Becky and Amy things are hate speech. Don't expect help if you're using millions of women's names, many who aren't even white and many who are activists for your needs have to keep hearing this stuff and being told their efforts to help are performative. The suggestions are good, the name calling is not.
Again, this seems to be about your prejudices, not ours. The one with the issue is you. You're a bigot. And you're a fool if you think you know anything about anyone's parents. I grew up in a Reform temple in the DC area. I was taught Hebrew by a black Mizrahi Jew and her brother. No one treated them as unwelcome and never would. It's against us and who we are. They're from known Jewish tribes.
I do remember being called arrogant at work for effectively defending attempts to submarine me at my job. It stuck for a long time.
I do notice that when I let my Autistic college professor voice come out, no one disputes my logic and my work gets respected, but they mysteriously don't like me enough to promote me. But if I'm "too nice," the logic gets ignored.
I appreciate Natasha's passion, and I think she should absolutely accept that while the Roe situation is not a good one, no one has to live with it each and every day. I have dear and not so dear people in my life who are losing time, getting old before their time and losing life to the stupidity of racism. Dreams and opportunities of all kinds gone over nothing.
Also, every true friend should be interested in their best peeps' life's work, whether it's bowl-making, activism or childcare. You should care enough about your friend to be interested in what they care about. About what makes their light turn on, and what holds them back. I'm sorry this friend isn't smarter.
Racism is a big piece of what's going on, but religion, culture, ability, are other ways in which people are excluded and discriminated against and attacked. Someone could be White but unexpected in other ways and be excluded on those accounts. That's what I often see missing in the privilege checklist/maatrix idea. It's an incomplete analysis. People have a tapestry of factors, not a continuum.
People in this country have a system of internal oppression that was no different from what their ancestors left behind in feudalism. They try to make it is as those in lower echelons "deserve it" because they've been taught subconsciously that they're fighting for status and postion. Weight is just another indicator in their minds that someone is lower than them. The accusors get upset when they're challenged to work toward their status as opposed to simply deserving it inherently by seeing you do something they have trouble with. It implies they're an impostor.
